1) Keep a record of your love story
It may come in the form of a blog, a journal, a scrapbook of photographs taken together etc. You have no idea how blessed you will be when you flip through all the past records and reminisce :
- how you both met
- the loving things you both did for each other
- the gifts you made/gave and received from one another
- how you showered your love for your bf/gf when he/she needed it the most
- the struggles and tribulations you both faced in the past when you first got together
- the dating period, the sweet pursuit :)
2) Constantly be in contact with the each other
Take the effort to drop him/her a ring or sms every now just to say 'I miss you.' Do not be afraid to call in fear of disturbing the other half. Be understanding if your other half is busy though, once the busy party is freed up, please call or sms back.
3) Don't hesitate to do something special for your monthly anniversary.
Start off the day (or even better, at the stroke of midnight!) by wishing each other Happy Xth Month Anniversary! A simple meal together later in the day would certainly make something for both parties to look forward to and although its an anniversary celebration, it doesn't necessarily have to be extravagant or posh. Just the notion of spending this special time of the month together with your bf/gf would fan any flames of love to burn even more scorchingly!
4) Do things together
Spending quality time together. Participate in activities that bond the both of you closer. Some examples;
- cooking/baking together promotes communication/teamwork, the process of building/creating something together and the ultimate sense of accomplishment at completion and the joy of sharing the fruits of your labour together!
- playing games together, a little competition can create excitement and passion, just don't let it get out of hand with overcompetitive-ness!
5) Avail yourself for one other
In times of stress and disappointments, its always nice to have your partner to be by your side to confide to. Availing yourself to be their pillar of support in times of need would make any grey sky blue again.
Guys, do not have to do anything, the key is just listening. Solutions are not gonna make your girl feel any better. Just tell her everything's gonna be alrite and give her a HUGE hug, you have no idea how powerful a hug can be in times of distress!
Girls, just be assuring, no matter how rough the situation your man is facing, constantly reassure him that he will pull through it! Sometimes guys need time/space to adjust back to their normal selves, so girls, stand back a few steps...show them silent support and love. Once your man sorts things out, they will absolutely be back to normal and appreciate you for it!
6) Give, give and give
I don't subscribe to the view that you shouldn't give too much in a relationship in fear that if you give more, the other party will take it for granted OR the more heartbroken you will be if the relationship ends. I firmly believe that you should love with all your heart, mind and soul with no regrets whatsoever. Don't hold back because of past failures or 'advice' from people who have failed before. Don't be stingy with your love. You reap what you sow. Listen to and trust your heart, if you truely love your partner, give him/her the best you can!
7) Be accomodating of each other's flaws and weaknesses
No one is perfect. Period. Sometimes humans can be so condemning to the people closest to them. The fact that you and your other half spend so much time together, you tend to see more of his/her flaws up close. Rather than nitpick on these flaws, treat it as a privilege that you get to see this side of your partner that many others don't. Think twice before you shoot fiery darts of condemnation at him/her. If its really a small matter, don't get worked up over it, let it slide. Why create an unhappy situation if it could be avoided?
Remember this, when you point ONE finger at others, you are pointing THREE back at yourself! A gentle response defuses anger, but a sharp tongue kindles wrath.
8) Be patient
1 Cor 13:4....Love is patient, love is kind.
Be more tolerant, get rid of impatience. Don't snap at your other half out of impatience. It only makes him/her feel lousy and incompetent.
9) Always put yourself in your bf's/gf's shoes
There is an old saying: "You can't really understand another person's experience until you've walked a mile in their shoes." Always consider how the other party would feel about something you are going to do. Be mindful of your partner's feelings before doing anything.
10) Tell him/her "I love you"
Everyone likes to hear that he/she is loved. Tell your partner how much you love him/her. Its not so difficult. Only 3 words :)
DEAR I LOVE YOU! YOU MAKE MY LIFE COMPLETE! This post is dedicated to you!
